Dominance

Women are naturally receptive with the right
male(s). Men are naturally penetrative.
EVERYTHING you do in seduction, from kino, to
escalation, to decision-making, should
reflect this fact.

Dominance is something that is warm, whereas
being domineering is cold. This is because
when you properly dominate a woman, she
completely delights in it and you are doing
this from a position of appreciation for her.
This is the case with reasonably
psychologically healthy women. You will find
out pretty quick if a woman needs you to be
abusive before she can become sexually
aroused. Unless you like stress, headaches
and police, it’s best to genuinely put these women
into the friendzone or keep them on very strict FB rules.
(see Tubarao). These girls can often be quite
normal in platonic relationships but not in
sexual ones.

I am fully convinced that on average, women
actually enjoy sex even more than men do.
They think about it more, fantasize more,
and spend more money trying to attract it.
OTOH, sex is also more important to them
and more biologically costly, so they must be
much more selective than us. However, the
competition for the best guys is fierce,
hence the cosmetic and fashion and dieting
industries. It’s also the reason why women
can cheat in a heartbeat and why they will
tolerate FB status or harem status if the guy
has sufficiently high value. It is not that
they do not want to get these men into a
relationship, it is that they often have no
choice. Check out the Alexyss Tylor video
on Penis Power.

Although more selective, women are no more
monogamous than men are. In fact, I would say
that they are even LESS monogamous than men.
On some boards you still regularly
see guys going on about how he is sure “there
are no other guys” etc, and claiming to be a PUAs,

and yet still totally preoccupied with
their women’s behavior. What they do not
understand is that most women are MASTERS at
discretion, that they need lovers AND
providers at their disposal and they are
experts at not fucking up the arrangement. If
your girlfriend meets a PUA and she is
attracted and the logistics are there, there
is nothing you can say or do about it and
the odds are very high you will never, ever
know about an encounter.

Women get “caught” only if they are
incredibly stupid or reckless (pretty rare
in psychologically healthy women), or when
an AFC literally gets lucky by masquerading
as a PUA and then starts to convert her into
a girlfriend over time. There is also always a risk
of falling in love when sex occurs, and it has
happened to the best of us on occasion. Then
the woman becomes conflicted because she has
two boyfriends and unfortunately for her,
most men (even PUAs!) are totally intolerant
of the situation and will begin warfare to
eliminate the competing male.

Selectivity does NOT translate into
monogamy. If we might fuck 50% of all the
reasonably attractive women on the planet,
and women might fuck only 2% of the men, that
still adds up to a lot of men. I do believe
a woman can be in love and if another
equally-attractive man enters the scene and
pushes the right buttons in sequence she
will be compelled to fuck him too. Logical
constructs, promises, commitments and
marriage contracts only factor in such
things as anti-slut defense (ASD), logistics and discretion.
But there is no creation of man that can
prevent female arousal.

I was recalling to Jordan how I actually
brought my ex girlfriend to the Cliff’s List seminar
in 2005 and introduced her to several of the
top PUAs at a party. Tyler actually
backturned her which was funny as hell, but
this sophisticated playette was quiet and
bashful and had very visible signs of high
arousal once we got back to the hotel.

KINO
This next point is very simple but crucial.
When a woman complies, THEN you kino, and
escalate. If she asks you a personal question
(which is an indicator of interest (IOI), then you REWARD her with
kino. If she touches you (HUGE IOI), then you
reward with kino and escalate. When she complies, reward.
When she acts in a way that you like, reward.
Do not “caveman” her or any other stupid shit
when she is acting badly, ignoring you,
pushing you away physically or
psychologically, disrespecting you, etc.
If you do not follow this advice then what
you are in fact doing is leading her into an
abusive relationship. Why? Because women
love sex more than men do! You are
subcommunicating bad things like:

- treat me like shit = get sex
- push me away = get sex
- lack of compliance = get sex.

I see only two outcomes from that. She either
sees you as a pussy and LJBFs you, or you
build an abusive and self-destructive
relationship. Neither outcome is acceptable
to me.

OTOH, when you reward compliance with kino,
you are demonstrating that you are a man who
gets it. It’s almost irresistible for a
woman and why men around the world still
insist on chaperons for their young
daughters.

If you want to know how this works in
practical terms, I highly recommend you
look for anything you can find by

Vin di Carlo regarding kino and also
regarding compliance.